Three keys to self-growth: read more, talk less, and be careful to make friends.
Three keys to self-growth: read more, talk less, and be careful to make friends.
Choose a circle that allows you to grow up and meet better people in order to meet a better self.

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Zhou Guoping said that there are three times of growth in life:

first, when you find that you are no longer the center of the world;

second, when you find that there is nothing you can do no matter how hard you try;

the third is the time to accept your own ordinary and enjoy the ordinary.

growth is the process of constantly refreshing your cognition and saying goodbye to your immature self in the past.

on the way to growing up, master the following three keys so that you can get lost without losing it.

first key: read more

have seen such a set of data:

A nation accounts for about 0.3% of the world's population, but the proportion of people who win Nobel Prizes is as high as 20%.

looking at this, maybe you already have the answer in your heart.

Yes, they are Jews.

Jews can achieve remarkable results in many fields.

the root of it is their good habit of sticking to reading.

as the classic Jewish saying:

"when you are down and out and have to sell your surplus to make ends meet, the first thing you should sell is gold, gems, land and houses.

and the books you have in your home can't be sold unless you have to. "

many people think that people's greatest strength comes from wealth and status.

in fact, after a person has read a lot of books, his tenacity and wisdom melted in his blood is his hardest card.

when watching the Redemption of Shawshank, what impressed me most was Andy, the protagonist who was wronged and jailed.

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because of his strong financial ability, he won the shelter of the prison guards.

because he was adept at memorizing the Bible, he had the upper hand in negotiations with the warden.

because he is well versed in the household registration policy, he has quietly recreated an identity for himself.

later, Andy was finally able to achieve the "impossible" escape plan because of his knowledge of geology and meteorology.

as Ji Xianlin said, "Reading can make you run forever and forever."

A person's growth begins by clenching the key of reading.

in reading, you can exercise your way of thinking and acquire strong low-level abilities:

you will jump out of the limitation of cognition and look at the problem from another height;

you will allow yourself to surpass what you were yesterday, rather than stagnant;

your life will be so resilient that you will have the courage to fight back even if you fall to the bottom.

second key: don't talk nonsense

like such a short story very much.

there was a young monk with great talent, but he was arrogant and spoke openly, so he caused a lot of trouble.

in the eyes of the Zen master, he did not blame him.

one day, the Zen master gave the little monk a pot of nocturnal incense and let the little monk observe it.

the next day, the little monk excitedly said to the Zen master, "this potted flower is so wonderful that it blossoms in the middle of the night, but in the early morning, it puts away its petals."

the Zen master asked, "did he disturb you when he blossomed at night?"

the little monk shook his head again and again: "from blooming to closing, it never makes a sound."

the Zen master smiled and said, "really?" I thought it would make a lot of noise when it blossomed. "

after hearing the words of the Zen master, the little monk bowed his head in shame and stopped talking falsely.

the flowers bloom silently and the fragrance comes.

most of the people who really have levels do not shine, keep a low profile and do not speak.

the thinker Francis Bacon said: "implication and propriety are more valuable than eloquence."

when he was young, Zeng Guofan was also outspoken, boasting that he spoke bluntly and offended many people.

it was not until Zeng Guofan almost lost his life that Zeng Guofan had an epiphany and made a rule for himself:

before going to bed every day, think about whether there is anything wrong with your words all day.

later, he became a person with very few words, only asking for the word "stability" in doing things.

because of his low profile, Zeng Guofan recruited numerous talented people and became a generation of famous officials.

Zhuangzi said, "it is good for dogs not to be good at barking, and good words are not good for people."

low-level people always make rude remarks and have no scruples.

the higher the level of people, on the contrary, know but do not speak, see through the silence.

after all, it is instinct to open your mouth, and it is the ability to shut up.

people live a lifetime, can control the mouth, can calm down, keep their own heart.

knowing how to speak carefully is a person's highest self-cultivation.

third key: beware of making friends

how important is a person's circle?

there is an interesting answer on the Internet:

our lives are always with people coming and going.

what kind of life you will have with the kind of person you are with.

see the story of a netizen.

Jingzi and the three girls who sleep with her are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.

at firstEveryone made an appointment to study hard and supervise each other.

but within two weeks, roommates began to slack off, calling them happy learning.

in the relaxed atmosphere, Jingzi also slept until noon every day and stayed up late at night to play.

I only read for a little while every day, and I can comfort myself that the exam is not a problem.

after the results of the postgraduate entrance examination were released, as expected, the whole dormitory failed together.

looking at the terrible scores, Shizuko instantly woke up, and she immediately decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination in World War II.

after that, Jingzi added several Wechat accounts of high achiever to the school group and studied with them.

the new students are very diligent and have specific plans for each step of review.

everyone is in the study room together, and the most conversation with each other is to discuss the topic.

in the atmosphere of self-discipline, Jingzi no longer indulges in watching dramas, goes out early and returns late every day, and devotes herself to her study.

the results of the postgraduate entrance examination came down this year, and Jingzi was admitted to her favorite famous school.

there is a saying in the ancients: "choosing friends is the first meaning of life." The success or failure of life is all related to whether a friend is good or not, so we must be careful. "

the rest of my life is short, and it really matters who I spend with.

if you make friends with diligent people, you will be ashamed of being lazy, and you will work hard.

if you work with excellent people, you will not be satisfied with mediocrity, but will constantly jump out of your comfort zone and practice yourself.

the sea of life, who to meet is determined by fate.

but it's up to us to decide who to keep company with.

choose a circle where you can grow up and meet better people in order to meet a better self.

Luo Zhenyu once said:

"growth is the gap between your subjective world and the objective world. When you fall in, it's called frustration, and when you climb out, it's called growth. "

when you are at a low ebb, you might as well calm down and heal yourself in the book.

when standing high, remember to be careful in your words and deeds and deal with the world with humility.

when you relax and slack off, remember to jump out of the circle that consumes you and follow the light forward.

, for the rest of your life, may you use these three keys to open the door to your ideal world and see everything you like.

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