May we lose our impetuousness, keep our hearts warm, and continue our spring, autumn, winter and summer.
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there will always be people who feel more and more tired and want to change, but never wonder why.
in fact, it is not that life is too mean to you, but that our emotions are too easily influenced by others.
if someone hurts you, you will double back to him; if someone despises you, you will despise him contemptuously.
in the end, he broke through his bottom line again and again, and even became the one he hated most.
Nietzsche once said, "if you struggle with an evil dragon for a long time, you will become an evil dragon." If you stare at the abyss for too long, the abyss will come back to gaze. "
90% of entanglements between people are meaningless.
think that life is too short. Why should it be so?
too much competition, you will always be the loser
writer Li Shanglong once shared a story.
once, he had to fly out of town on business, but his flight had to be cancelled because of the weather.
all of a sudden, abuse and sighs flooded the airport.
Li Shanglong also booed with others and argued with the staff in theory, and the scene got out of control for a time.
at this time, the friend around me said faintly: "if you continue to argue in this way, will you be able to solve the problem?"
Li Shanglong woke up from a dream and hurried to the counter to change to the nearest flight.
after they had checked in, the group of talents swarmed to the change office. Unfortunately, there are no tickets for other flights available for them to change on that day.
there are always some unpredictable situations in life.
the more anxious you are, the more you worry about it, and the easier it is to screw it up.
in the end, you will not only waste your time and make yourself full of hostility, but may also bring irreparable harm.
Norwegian psychologist Nodesk once participated in an emergency assembly exercise when he was young.
just when he was about to bend over to check that his shoelaces were fastened, the exercise began.
so he wondered whether the shoes had been fastened in the end, worried about what to do if the shoelaces came loose and tripped him over.
the more he thought about it, the more anxious he became, and he was unable to concentrate during the exercise. As a result, he was negligent, resulting in an injury to his left leg.
and in fact, that shoelace has been well tied all the time.
the long road of life, fate will always arrange some uncomfortable people or things, in a hurry to add to your traffic jam and stimulate you.
if you put all your time and energy into worrying and entanglement, you will only make yourself exhausted, and in the end, the loss outweighs the gain.
the greatest absurdity of a person's life is to spend the motivation that should have been used to move forward, spending it on the fact that it cannot be changed, and struggling with the past.
if you struggle with bad things, you will live a chicken feather; if you struggle with bad people, your life will be worn away.
in the end, only to find that things are not solved, but will drag you into the emotional quagmire, deeper and deeper.
so don't act on the spur of the moment, everything is too competitive, no matter what the result, you are the loser.
Don't let bad people do bad things and delay your life
when Zeng Guofan was in the Imperial Academy, the father of his boss, Zhao Kui, came to Beijing.
Zhao Jie invited his colleagues to dinner in his next post, and of course Zeng Guofan was also on the list.
but when Zeng Guofan had just become an official, his salary was not high, and he was very disgusted with the social situation in this scene, so he ignored the advice of his colleagues and did not go to dinner, thus offending Zhao Kuang.
and Zhao Kui was narrow-minded, so the two formed a feud, and Zeng Guofan was targeted everywhere by Zhao Guofan.
at that time, Zeng Guofan's old illness was so serious that he could not sit for a long time, so he asked Zhao Guofan for leave to recuperate.
Zhao Jie took the opportunity to deliberately make things difficult for him: "how long have you been here? you have to ask for leave. Are you looking down on me?" Your leave will not be approved. " Zeng Guofan had no choice but to endure the pain and continue to work.
on weekdays, whenever he seized the opportunity, Zhao would scold him, suppress him everywhere, and sometimes deliberately mess with him. But Zeng Guofan never took it to heart and just did his job.
later, Zeng Guofan was appreciated by the emperor and was promoted to several levels.
it is rare that even in the face of Zhao Kui, who once mistreated himself, he was still courteous, did not wait for revenge, and even came to ask for advice in person.
disputes between people are often caused by anger and intransigence.
No one knows that in the end, they are the ones who pay the bill.
time is more and more expensive to live. If you indulge in the hustle and bustle, people will be wasted for a long time.
I think so.
Life is so short that there is no need to spend yourself entangling with bad people.
as the old saying goes, "do not quarrel with the world, avoid troubles; do not argue with others, avoid disputes."
Don't get too entangled with some things if you can leave them alone.
most of the time, it is not because we are afraid of things, but because we do not want to waste time and energy, but also delay our lives.
since you can't change it, choose to forgive and let go.
when you learn to get rid of unnecessary troubles, you will find that they are not worth mentioning at all.
No entanglement in case of trouble is the highest level of self-discipline
there is a question on Zhihu: what is the source of pain in life?
At the bottom, a high praise replied: "can not let go, can not forget, entangled."
nine times out of ten, life is not what you want, but you actually have a better choice than entanglement.
the Harvard professor picked up the cup with water and asked the audience, "guess how heavy this glass of water is?"
there are different opinions on "50 grams", "100 grams" and "125 grams".
the professor continued, "my question now is, 'what will happen if I hold it like this for a few minutes?'"
"it won't be anything, and it won't be long," someone replied.
"but what if it lasts for an hour?" the professor asked again.
"the arms should be a little sore," replied the audience in the front row.
"that's right. What if you hold it like this for a day?"
"that arm must be sore, and maybe the muscles will cramp, so I have to go to the hospital." The audience in the back row said boldly.
"then why does the arm holding the cup ache and become numb?" After the question, no one in the audience said a word.
the professor went on to ask, "what should I do if I don't want my arm to be sore?"
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"it's easy. Just put the cup down." The crowd replied in unison.
in fact, many times what happens in life is like a cup in your hand, you have been clinging to it, just to bring trouble and trouble to yourself.
there is a famous Western proverb: "Don't cry over spilled milk."
Milk spilled on the ground, no matter how sad you are, it won't change anything. After all, it won't go back to its original state. On the contrary, it will affect your mood and cause more troubles.
since it is irreparable and can't get the results you want, you don't have to worry about remorse and entanglement.
the same is true of life. The more entangled you are, the heavier the burden will be. In this way, you will only lose yourself and your true happiness.
I like a sentence in the movie Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon very much:
"when you clench your hands, there is nothing in them; when you open them, the world is in your hands."
instead of wasting time on these things and having a hard time with yourself, let go of the bad things that consume you and leave chic.
when you learn not to entangle, you will find that there is no hurdle that cannot be crossed in life, and there is nothing that cannot be let go.
Yes, life needs to move on. Don't disturb your life because of bad people and things.
after all, the meaning of life lies in happiness, and your time is worth wasting on good things.
the stars are bright and everything is clear. Only by restraining the desire to be entangled with others and shaking hands with life can we go to the pleasant mountains and seas.
for the rest of our lives, may we lose our impetuosity, keep our hearts warm, and continue our spring, autumn, winter and summer.
in this way, happiness will knock on the door.
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