Mindset determines 80% of your life.
see someone ask: "what best reflects a person's level?"
someone replied, "it depends on how he reacts when something happens."
it is true that there are many things in life that cannot be carried out by the heart, but we have to face and solve them eventually.
those with a high level often know how to solve problems in various ways.
how can I become such a person?
I think there are several high-level ways to deal with things. I hope we can all use them freely.
when something goes wrong, you can keep it steady
is there such a person around you?
I accidentally bumped into someone else when I was walking, and I swore right away.
with a little friction at work, his face immediately sank and he spoke strangely.
whenever you encounter trouble in your life, you blow your beard, stare and spread negative emotions.
A little thing can make him anxious and angry, and his mood is not stable at all.
I used to have such a friend.
one year, on National Day, we went on a trip together, but we didn't get tickets and tickets, so we had to take a bus.
the highway was jammed as expected on National Day holiday.
the original three-hour drive took a full six hours to walk.
friend A has been restless: "how long does this have to be blocked?"
"I was going to play for three days, but the first day was wasted here."
suddenly, friend B chimed in:
"the most important thing to come out to play is to have fun. Since this is the case, you might as well take a look at the surrounding scenery. It's so beautiful."
A comparison between two people will determine the level of dealing with the problem.
there are many things in life that we can't control. One of the best ways to solve problems is to stabilize ourselves.
there is a good saying: "Mount Tai falls in front but the color remains the same, and the Milu deer thrives on the left but does not blink."
big things or small things, hold on, and you win.
when something happens, it will be flexible
two sentences often heard:
"Don't hit the wall, don't look back."
"one way, go to the dark."
this persistence is admirable, but sometimes too persistent and inflexible will hurt yourself.
A few days ago, I watched the news of the death of a graduate student from Dalian University of Technology, and I felt very heavy.
the child posted a suicide note on Weibo, counting his pain and struggle in the process of scientific research.
what a gentle child, at the best age, with a brighter future than most people, but died in this way.
in the final analysis, a person's life is a process of change.
you can't do scientific research, you can't do business, you can't do business, you can't write articles.
there are many places in this world, one of which belongs to you, as long as you have to change and you have to find it.
I remember Lin Yutang said, "it is better to give up wisely than to cling to it blindly."
it reminds me of a person, Zhou Jie.
Zhou Jie is well known by the audience for his role as Erkang in "returning the Pearl", but it is a pity that it is a flash in the pan.
because his character is too straightforward, the road to acting has once come to a dead end.
at that time, he was covered with negative labels, "forced kissing Lin Xinru", "angrily beating security guards", "hit-and-run" …...
in the face of rumors everywhere, he was in no hurry to explain, but gradually faded out of show business to prove his innocence.
unexpectedly, he ended his acting career for half his life, but ushered in his own pastoral pastoral song.
he returned to the countryside, contracted land and produced organic rice.
then, he founded a red wine brand and messed with works of art in his spare time.
although he has disappeared from the public view, he has made a success of himself in his own field.
in just a few years, his worth has multiplied several times.
he said: "knowing that EQ is not high, I don't know how to face the rivers and lakes, so showing people in their true face has been ridiculed and despised a lot, but I accept it."
A few words, I can see his helplessness, but he is also somewhat calm.
to live is to constantly overthrow yourself, rebuild yourself, doubt yourself and accept yourself countless times.
if you can't get through this way, go another way; if you can't get through another way, turn a corner.
you know, when people change, everything makes sense.
when something happens, let it go
has always liked a sentence: put it down and feel at ease.
people just want to, when things come, they are not afraid of things, but when they are over, they forget them.
Pan Shiyi, a real estate tycoon, once exposed something that had been buried for 34 years.
when he was a child, his uncle, who was a teacher at school, took him to the podium and let 100 teachers and students watch. He was even humiliated by some of his classmates.
Pan Shiyi became an adult, although he flew to Huang Tengda.But I still feel bad about my uncle.
he said: "I have made a list of people who have always held a grudge in my heart, and the one who hurts me the most is my uncle."
his mother gave her useless wheelchair to his uncle, which could make Pan Shiyi furious.
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until his uncle died, Pan Shiyi felt unhappy. He felt that his uncle's shadow often appeared uncontrollably in his brain.
this matter, let Pan Shiyi suddenly realize that this can not go on.
it's not worth it for a living person to be tortured by someone who has passed away.
Pan Shiyi, who figured it out, burned the hate list.
when he finished this, he walked on Changan Street, feeling warm and sunny, and passers-by smiled brightly.
he said, "that day, I felt like I was recovering from a serious illness."
Yes, no matter what happens, when you get better, everything will be all right.
there is a saying: "you can't go back in the past, but you can still have it in the future."
when you understand that the past days are really gone, and the days to come are still worth looking forward to.
in your eyes, no matter what happens, it doesn't matter.
the best way to deal with things is to stabilize your mood, know how to be flexible, and learn to let go.
A person will encounter a lot of trouble in his life.
the way you solve everything may be different, but the only thing that doesn't change is to adjust your mindset.
at the end of the day, you will find that your ability to handle things determines your lower limit, but your mindset determines your upper limit.
truly high-level people are not necessarily superior in talent or unparalleled in the world, but they must be good at adjusting their mindset.
they understand that living in this complicated world, only by constantly pruning the intricate branches of their hearts can they live simply and freely.
May you and I all be such people for the rest of my life.