It is not difficult to know people, but it is difficult to respect them.
people have different ideas when they are in different positions.
if you are a driver, you will feel that passers-by should abide by the rules; if you are a passer-by, you will feel that the car owner needs comity.
if you are the boss, you will think that the employee is very lazy; if you are an employee, you will think the boss is very strict.
you have a daughter, and you want your mother-in-law to give more betrothal gifts;
you have a son and you think your father-in-law wants too many betrothal gifts.
you have a daughter-in-law, and you think her daughter-in-law is too busy to be sensible.
you have a daughter and you want her to be in charge of her husband's family.
when you drive, you hate pedestrians;
when you walk, you hate cars.
when you work, you think your boss is too strong and stingy.
when you become a boss, you feel that your employees are too irresponsible and realistic.
you are a customer and think the merchant is too profiteering;
you are a businessman and think your customers are too picky.
therefore, everyone lives in his own prejudice.
your position determines the starting point of what you do;
what you need, you will judge by what you need.
it is not difficult to know people, but it is difficult to respect them.
other people have no car, no house, you say he is clumsy;
if someone else has a car and a house, you say he is smart.
Are you overwhelmed with the number of long prom dresses for short girls when shopping online? Find your favorite and it will remain fashionable and fabulous for the years to come.
if others keep a low profile, you will ignore it;
if others are high-profile, you will wear a hat; if others are mediocre, you dislike them as ordinary.
other people's routine, you say they are boring;
when others work hard day and night, you say that the world does not return home at night.
Life, it's just laughing at others here and being laughed at by others there.
when it comes to interests, there is mutual abuse, attack and calculation.
there is a classic conversation in history:
Emperor Taizong asked Xu Jingzong:
you are the most capable among the civil and military officials of the Manchu Dynasty, but there are still people who keep talking about your mistakes in front of me. Why?
Xu Jingzong replied:
Spring rain is as expensive as oil. Farmers love it because it moistens their crops, but travelers hate it because it makes the roads muddy and difficult.
the autumn moon shines like a bright mirror in all directions. Talented scholars and beauties gladly appreciate the moon and recite poems, but thieves hate it for fear of showing their ugly deeds.
I am omnipotent and cannot satisfy everyone, not to mention that I am an ordinary person.
there is another story:
A pig, a sheep and a cow are kept in the same corral by the shepherd.
one day, the shepherd took the pig out of the corral and heard the pig barking loudly and rebelled strongly.
the sheep and cows hated its howling and complained, "We are often caught by shepherds, and we don't yell like you."
Pig replied, "catching you and catching me are two different things. He only divides your hair and juice, but it kills me!"
everyone has their own position and can only see the situation they are facing.
people's arrogance is that we always think that the world we see is the situation faced by others.
Don't forget the darkness just because you are in the sun.
most of the time our differences do not come from things themselves, but from our different positions.
people born noble, it is difficult to understand other people's view of consumption;
for people born ordinary, it is difficult to have the freedom to leave as soon as they are told.
the situation is different, it is difficult to understand; the angle is different, it is difficult to resonate.
do not easily judge who is right and who is wrong, your honey, that arsenic.
if a person always stands in his own position to see others, he will always live in his own prejudice, and there will always be problems that cannot be solved.
there are all kinds of life, each has its own suffering.
too many people know a little about others
information, start to comment on other people's lives, or even interfere, randomly splashing dirty water?
never judge other people's lives casually, because you don't have other people's experience, much less can you understand other people's difficulties.
one of the signs of maturity is to understand one truth:
what other people think of you has nothing to do with you.
because when other people are judging you, they appear to be judging you, but in fact they show their hearts.
you are just a projector of their hearts, projecting their truest hearts.
every word they evaluate of you is a true reflection of their heart.
people with dark hearts are despicable when they look at everything; those who are sunny inside see sunshine.
you just act as a mirror of their heart, you let them see their heart.
you can save a man with a heart of stone, but it is difficult to save a man with a dark heart.
it is a kind of mind to know people rather than judge them casually, and to be able to think about things from the point of view of others.
Life is aliveThere is always vanity: if you look at other people's dissatisfaction, you will regard yourself as having a good life.
those who like to make up stories behind your back are for three reasons:
without your level
he doesn't have what you have
attempt to imitate you
this is the usual trend. There are such a small group of people who judge others all day long. Their physique, appearance, dress, behavior have become the focus of their comments, and sometimes they are even picky, or even sarcastic.
Mr. Lu Xun often dissects society, but he actually dissects himself:
"without a word of abuse, it cannot be applied to himself."
without such a sharp courage to dissect ourselves, we would not be qualified to dissect others.
otherwise, you will only give yourself a name for malice.
it is talent who can know people, and great talent who can respect people.
knowing people's difficulties but not casually judging others and giving timely assistance is the best kindness in the world.