Home is a place of love, not a place of reason.
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there is an old saying: every family has its own difficulties.
if the child is too naughty and honed, the years will give him the best growth.
if life is not rich enough, through hard work, there will always be a good day.
but if husband and wife are tit-for-tat all day long, there is always resentment between father and son, and there is no kinship between brothers, that is the beginning of the decline of the family.
the most difficult thing for a family to learn is the discord among relatives, and the greatest disaster is the loss of harmony among the whole family.
Family discord, quarrels, people do not get together
Mr. Shan Yin Jing once said:
"those who are not exuberant, but whose home is unlucky. There is no hostility, but the family is not in decline. "
A home without friendliness is like a house without a roof, which can no longer give sense of security to people.
if the family lives together, if only quarrels and hostility are left, then the family does not have any temperature, but it is just a cold residence.
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it was late at night, and the couple were still quarrelling. In addition to the quarrel, there was the sound of broken glass in the house.
the child stood alone in the living room, calling "mother" in fear. After a while, the mother came out and made faces at the child to make him happy.
then she squatted down and opened her arms, when she suddenly grew wings behind her, tightly protecting the child.
it is obvious that these wings are covered with scars and pain.
means going out every day, no matter how many grievances you encounter, as long as you go home, you can always cure everything.
Home is not a battlefield, there is no need to wave the flag and shout, no matter who wins or loses; it is not a chessboard, it does not need to be careful and be on guard everywhere.
A quarrel or even a big fight, you think you have won, but you have lost everything.
I have heard a point of view: the relationship between people has a rebound effect.
you always lose your temper at the one you love, and when one day these anger bounces back, you will feel many times the hurt and pain.
whether husband and wife, father and son, or brothers and sisters, there is tolerance and accommodation, there is happiness.
after all, home is a place of love, not a place of reason.
the family is harmonious. No matter how poor it is, the family can get rich, the family is at odds with each other, and the hearts of the people are drifting away.
grievances are passed on from generation to generation, and blessings are reduced day by day
when people are young, they often think that all complaints and scolding only exist at the moment when they are spoken, and that as long as things are over, they can act as if nothing has happened.
but it is not until middle age that we find that grievances "accumulate". As long as they are not eliminated, they will remind us all the time and affect the growth of future generations.
educator William James mentioned:
"Children are born with a blank sheet of paper, and whether this piece of paper can be painted as a beautiful picture in the end depends entirely on their parents."
if you write kindness on it, the child will become a gentle person, and if you write grievances on it, the child will become a repressed person.
the movie "ten thousand arrows through the heart" is a manifestation of a tragic family.
Li Baoli and her husband Ma Xuewu are two people from different worlds, but they live together.
Li Baoli thinks she is a local, so she often dictates to Ma Xuewu from the countryside, refuses to choose her words, and can say even unpleasant words in her anger.
after a long time, Ma Xuewu finally couldn't stand it and asked for a divorce, and then cheated on her female colleague without Li Baoli's consent to divorce.
after learning that she had been betrayed, Li Baoli personally reported her husband, and because of this, Ma Xuewu was laid off, and then couldn't think of jumping into the river to commit suicide.
from then on, in order to provide for her son's education and support her mother-in-law, she became a "pole" on the street and carried her life on her shoulders for ten years.
Ten years later, my son was admitted to college, but he offered to sever ties with Li Baoli, because he hated Li Baoli for killing his father and destroying his family.
because of family conflicts, the child has hidden resentment since childhood, because his mother does not know how to communicate, and he has no affection for his mother except disgust.
there is a saying in the Book of Rites: father and son Benedict, brothers in harmony, husband and wife, the fat of the family.
the mouth of parents is the way of children.
the way parents get along, their children will have a future, and then walk into their homes with those shadows or light and pass them on from generation to generation.
the temperature of a family is not only the blessing of a family, but also represents the rise and fall of a family.
if grievances are passed on from generation to generation, blessings will only be "reduced day by day".
the best fengshui in a home:
No matter the big things are right or wrong, don't keep the little things in mind
Professor Li Meijin said a rather profound sentence:
"No matter who you have a conflict with, you must remember that you usually have three to five sentences. If I say a sentence, you will say it to me, then I will say it again.If you go on, you will be in a hurry, and then you can turn your head and walk away. In three or five sentences, only those who can stop at that point are sensible.
because the quarrel has reached this point, the matter is no longer clear, and there is no need to fight up and down. "
Why are we more likely to lose our temper with people close to us?
in fact, when you think about it, it's probably because:
you don't have the strength to get angry with your boss and worry about getting fired.
you don't have the courage to get angry with your friend for fear that he will walk away.
you don't have the courage to get angry with your customers and worry that all your efforts will be wasted.
you are even more afraid to get angry with strangers for fear of taking on too much consequences.
your temper is just that you are worried about outsiders, but you are not afraid of your family, because you think they will never leave.
but this is not the case. People always know too late and regret too late.
as Cai Kangyong said, the idea of "if I knew" is the reason for everyone's tears.
many people envy the relationship between Chow Yun-fat and his wife, because everyone thinks that should be the best way to get along with each other.
the couple can make up in one day after quarreling, because no matter who is wrong, Chow Yun-fat will take the initiative to give in, and he doesn't want trifles to affect his relationship.
the most stable relationship of a family is not the "endurance" of grievances, but the "concession" where harmony is the most precious.
through the ages, the best feng shui for every family should be:
Great events do not need to win or lose, face problems together and solve contradictions.
Don't haggle over trifles, don't have overnight grudges, learn to forgive each other;
put aside the "knife mouth", give up the bad temper, mutual understanding, long live understanding.
discussing big things, forgiving small things, not arguing for right or wrong, and not turning over old debts is the source of harmony.
Zhou Guoping wrote in his book:
"it is instinct to be critical of those close to you, but it is a kind of upbringing to restrain your instinct and not to be critical of those close to you." We should guard against our instincts and cultivate our education. "
Family wealth is not as good as family company.
until middle age, people gradually understand the true meaning of happiness, become more and more tolerant of the world, do not lose their temper and learn to understand, and gradually understand what is the most important.
compared to the loss of both sides after a quarrel, I prefer to talk and laugh with my family in the gentle light.
, may you always have a warm home to go back to and family to embrace.
good news, I believe there is always a voice that warms you.