Doing housework is an ability and an invisible wealth that accompanies a child's life.
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I saw a video speech about educating children on the Internet. In the speech, I didn't talk about the grades or the enrollment rate. The first thing I mentioned was housework.
at the beginning, everyone should pay attention to
Children have to do housework when they go home. There is time to do more, no time to do less, but can not stop. You have to do it for a minute, and it would be better to do it for half an hour. "
doing housework has become an aspect of educating children. You can imagine how many families are unwilling to let their children do a little housework and concentrate on keeping their children busy studying.
parents who take care of everything can't raise grateful children
tell a true story:
I have a friend who is nearly 40 years old to have a daughter. She is an old girl and is very precious to her children. She is afraid of falling in her hand and afraid of melting in her mouth.
she is in junior high school and doesn't know how to do anything. She calls her parents if she needs anything. Her parents are also happy to wait on her.
until once, when my friend's husband was on a business trip, the friend himself caught a cold and got sick and went to the hospital to take an intravenous drip. When she got home after nine o'clock in the evening, her daughter's first words were:
"Mom, why are you back? I'm starving. Go and cook!"
my friend immediately felt sad and cooked the meal. The daughter, as usual, put down the bowls and chopsticks and left.
after my friend packed everything, he and her husband called, and the two talked about half the night to discuss whether there was something wrong with their own way of education. is it really right to pamper their daughter like this?
if parents do too much for their children, their children will feel that everything comes easily, and they will naturally "deserve it."
in the book "very cruel and very loving", it says:
"parents give their children too much love, not too little.
I don't have the heart to let them experience the hardships of life from an early age, and they don't know how to ask them at the right time, so in the end, it will be difficult for their children to ask for money from them all their lives. "
parents who "love" their children too much will only raise children who "only love themselves".
there is a big difference between children who do housework and those who do not.
parents always feel that their children are still young, that housework is far away from them, and that doing housework prevents their children from learning, but in fact, housework and study are never two things that contradict each other.
on the contrary, children who do housework get better grades.
an educational research institute has conducted a survey of 20,000 primary school families. The results show that:
Children who like to do housework are 27 times more likely to get good grades than those who do not.
and Harvard scholars followed 456 teenagers for 75 years and concluded that children who do housework will be more promising in the future.
parents take care of washing clothes, tidying up rooms, packing schoolbags and doing housework. Parents who are overly responsible deprive their children of the opportunity to be responsible for themselves.
thinking that you are being kind to children will only lead to the slow development of children's independence, consciousness and self-control, and they have to rely on their parents for everything.
do not let children do housework, blindly spoil, arrange to replace, not only reduce the happiness index, but also the emergence of a lot of unhealthy personality, affecting the child's life.
doing housework is the first step for children to become elites
the ancients said, "if you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?"
if you want a child to become an elite, it is essential for him to do housework.
but children are not born to do housework. It takes some skills to make children know how to do housework and be willing to do it well.
give children the opportunity to do housework and actively encourage children
in a program, ahem wanted to help his mother make juice, so he threw the fruit directly into the water, thought the "juice" was done, and gave it to Huo Siyan with confidence.
Huo Siyan took a sip of tasteless water and praised it as "delicious".
this compliment made ahem more motivated and tried over and over again. Huo Siyan didn't guide him to use the juicer until he was almost tired of trying.
under Huo Siyan's encouragement and guidance, uh-huh consciously helped her mother collect bowls, take out the garbage, and clean the table, showing no displeasure at all.
give the child an invitation instead of a command
one netizen said:
"when I was young, I thought it was fun to do housework, and I was happy to help my parents. I always did what I could.
later, my mother made it my duty to do housework, forced me to do what I had to do, and criticized me for not doing it, saying that I had gone bad.
I become more and more disgusted with housework. In the end, I have to do it, and I don't have the feeling of enjoying life anymore. "
do not turn housework into a task for children at the guidance stage, although children will complete the task under the authority of their parents, but the child's heart is repulsive.
Children like to imitate. Parents can invite their children to join them when they do housework, and they are naturally willing to participate.
parents learn to show weakness, and children are more willing to bear
Hu Ke said in the program:
"A boy's mother must know how to weaken the role of a mother and show weakness in front of her son, so that he has a chance to grow into a real man."
she often acts coquettish with her son Angie.For example, when you feel tired, tell your child how you feel truthfully:
"I'm very tired today. I need you to help my mother with some housework, okay?"
it is this weakness of Hu Ke that makes Anji grow into a pure man, who knows how to take care of his younger brother and is very considerate to his mother, and has become a little man with a great sense of responsibility.
treat a child as a "little adult" and you will see his ability grow rapidly, become more independent and more responsible.
arrange housework for children within their ability
Children need a sense of achievement. If the housework arranged by parents is beyond their children's ability, it will only make them feel frustrated and affect their enthusiasm to do housework.
therefore, it is important to arrange housework for children in accordance with their age characteristics.
the following is a table released by People's Daily about the children's age and housework for parents' reference:
A child is like a knife, only when he is constantly polished will he bloom his original edge, remain idle all the time, and will only make him rust.
doing housework is an ability and an invisible wealth that accompanies a child's life, and the child must master it.
A child who can do housework is the architect of a happy life.