May we all talk well and love our family well.
read at ten o'clock
have you noticed that people are always like this:
leave politeness to outsiders, bring temper to your family, give kindness to others, and give all the blame to your lover.
everything seems to be taken for granted.
but looking back, this is not the greatest stupidity of a person.
what we have been striving for all our lives is not to hope that the whole family will be happy and healthy and live in harmony.
but in blaming again and again, they destroyed each other's hard-built homes.
between husband and wife,
comfort is the antistaling agent for marriage
the other day, I saw a piece of news.
A couple in Henan Province quarreled over family chores on the highway, but their angry husband went in the wrong direction.
as a result, the wife criticized her husband several times, and the two men quarreled all the way, and no one noticed that the car ran out of fuel and was forced to stop on the way.
as a result, the two men sat in the car and continued to quarrel, and finally they were dodged by a big truck behind and hit directly.
in retrospect, the source of the quarrel may have been a trivial matter, but it made the whole incident uncontrollable.
if there had been a person who could not say a word at that time, or if the wife had chosen to communicate well when her husband went the wrong way, she would have arrived home safely.
now not only the vehicle is damaged, but two people also have to be punished.
in fact, when something happens, accusation is the most ineffective way to solve the problem, but will intensify the contradiction.
moreover, every time we are not considerate and every sentence is not forgiven, there will be cracks in our feelings, and there will be more cracks, and we do not know when they will collapse.
in Xiao Shude, Nanli shifts the pressure to her children after suffering a series of blows such as demotion.
Xia Junshan felt sorry for her child, and the two had a fierce quarrel:
"if you are not satisfied with your life, you have to compete with your parents and your children, but you refuse to find a reason from yourself."
Nan Li is not to be outdone:
"Don't you have a fight with your parents? Your relationship with your mother is no better than that of strangers. "
the originally loving couple got red-eyed and broke up in discord.
until later, Nan Li mistakenly thought she was seriously ill and wanted to part with her husband before she began to regret her previous behavior.
the last two people reflect on their own and have a frank dialogue and reconciliation.
Old people often say that there is no such thing as husband and wife without quarreling.
but no matter how good the relationship is, he can't stand the accusation every time he quarrels.
whether a marriage can last or not is not caused by problems.
but, now that things have happened, it is the most sensible choice to encourage each other and work together to find solutions.
A person's tolerance and understanding, a person's enough is enough, marriage can last for a long time.
Let him go through the ups and downs, and he will always share the same life and embrace more happiness.
between family members,
be more considerate of others to be more intimate
I've seen a lot of people who blame themselves for not showing their best to outsiders.
but very few people regret taking it out on their family members.
We are getting older, but our parents are becoming more and more impatient.
the reader Shaddock once told his own story.
Shaddock has been engaged in the new media industry in big cities since graduation, looking beautiful, not to mention staying up late and working overtime, and there are often emergencies.
her parents do not understand her career choice and feel that she should find a stable, institutional job.
when she came home for the Spring Festival, the mother wanted to know more about her daughter's daily life. It happened that Shaddock was working overtime.
Shaddock, who was unhappy at work, lost her temper with her mother:
"Oh, you don't know. Don't ask." Rarely during the holiday, I want to have a good rest, and I still want to be quarreled by you. I knew I wouldn't come back. "
since then, her parents have never disturbed her when she is busy.
prepare the meal more carefully and wash the fruit more carefully than before, so that she can eat it right out of the door.
later, when a relative's family highlighted the urgent need for help, her parents knocked on the door of her room carefully and hastened to explain the causes and consequences.
Shaddock looked at her parents' nervousness and fell into deep remorse and remorse.
I don't know since when, we began to have different attitudes towards outsiders and parents.
We can be nice to our customers, laugh to our friends, and criticize and complain in front of our parents as soon as we get home.
because of the parents' inadvertent mistakes, they shouted harshly, and their efforts seemed to be completely ignored.
how many times, my parents left understandingly on the surface, but secretly grieved in the house.
but it is because home is a place of love that every sentence should be said more carefully.
when something happens, if you criticize them less, you will be more happy; if you complain less, you will be happy more.
Life comes and goes, and the days to come are not long. The greatest filial piety to parents is to be kind.
strive to let them live a happy old age, not for anything else, but to thank their parents for their selfless contribution to us.
encouragement is the best way to nourish children
there is no parent who doesn't love their children, but in many families, there is a poignant fact that they are not very good at expressing love.
clearly love each other, but in the scope of not talking well, destroy the hope of the child's life.
some time ago, the incident of a girl jumping into the river in Jiangxi attracted the attention of the whole network.
on a ferry in Jiujiang, Jiangxi Province, a 22-year-old girl had an argument with her father.
then a shocking scene happened, the girl opened the car door, climbed into the fence, and jumped directly into the river without hesitation.
after the father chased him out, he jumped into the river desperate to rescue his daughter.
afterwards, some people accused the girl of being psychologically fragile and playing games with her life, but as netizens commented:
"jumping is by no means a momentary emotion." This should be an emotion that has been endured for a long time. "
the most wrong way for parents to communicate is to regard blame as love.
Children who are often beaten by their parents will have a bias in my perception, become less and less confident, and are more likely to collapse when they encounter setbacks.
it is said that the mouth of parents determines the fate of their children.
A really good parent-child relationship should be the acceptance of companionship rather than blaming.
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parents should provide both intellectual support and emotional comfort to their children.
when a child does something wrong, what parents should do is to pull the child in time to guide the child to move forward correctly, rather than step on one foot and let the child suffer the second harm.
only by loving and reasonable can we raise children who are equally confident, optimistic and sunny.
there is a family style of not blaming when something happens
A good family atmosphere may have many factors.
but all happy families have one thing in common, that is, they do not blame when things go wrong.
never hurt our families twice for the mistakes you have made, let alone casually criticize the people who love you and those you love.
Happy families, the more they need to treat each family well.
it is not easy to blame when something happens, which is not only the most precious family style of a family, but also the best fengshui.
with a heart of tolerance and gratitude, encourage more understanding of the people close to you, and the family will become more and more warm.
, may we all talk well and love our families.