Not everyone lives in the same sea.
unable to empathize with different situations
one day in ancient times, it snowed heavily in Chang'an City, and it was extremely cold. A literati who had eaten enough to digest his food saw the snowflakes fluttering and poetic, and blurted out, "the heavy snow fell one after another."
just read a sentence, just happened to be heard by a promoted official, grateful for the great kindness of the emperor, he replied: "it is royal auspiciousness."
A businessman who made a fortune selling cotton-padded clothes and trousers was overjoyed and said, "Why not next three years?"
the word infuriated a starving beggar on the side of the road, trembling and scolding: "put your mother's bullshit!"
in fact, in life, everyone has a different position, and it is difficult to empathize with him.
your happiness has not been tasted by others, so it is difficult to feel your joy and joy. Your suffering has not been eaten by others, and it is difficult to take care of your emotions and grievances.
during the reign of Emperor Hui of the Jin Dynasty, there was a year when the people had no food to eat, but had to dig up grass roots and eat Guanyin soil, and many people died as a result.
the news was quickly reported to the palace, and Emperor Huidi of Jin sat on the high throne and was greatly puzzled after listening to the minister's report.
the "kind" Emperor Huidi of Jin wanted to do something for his people. after thinking hard, he came up with a "good" way: "people don't have corn to satisfy their hunger, so why not eat minced meat?"
maybe we can judge that Emperor Huidi of Jin Dynasty is an incompetent king, but it is difficult for us to conclude that he is an unkind person.
there is a saying: "not everyone lives in the same sea."
everyone's situation is different, their situation is different, and their views and views on things are also different.
so, sometimes you don't have to judge other people's right or wrong, because you are not others, and you have not experienced other people's lives.
sometimes, you don't have to blame that no one understands your pain and hardship, because others simply can't understand your sadness and pain.
you can't generalize with different angles
there is such an article in the Chinese textbook of primary school.
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when the author was in the fourth grade of primary school, the teacher put two carambola on the table and asked the students to draw.
his seat was on the side of the front row, and one end of the two carambola on the table was facing him, but the carambola he saw looked like something with five corners, so he clung to the picture honestly.
when the other students found out, they all laughed at him.
the teacher looked at the picture, went to his seat, examined the carambola on the table, then went back to the podium, held up his painting and asked everyone:
"does this picture look like it?"
"what's it like?"
"like a pentagram!"
the teacher's face became serious. After a while, he asked, "is it funny to draw carambola into a five-pointed star?" "good-laugh!" Several students rushed to answer, laughing at the same time.
so the teacher asked the students to take turns to sit in his seat. The teacher said to the first student sitting down, "now look at the carambola, like the carambola you usually see."
"No. Like. "
"so, what's it like?"
"like. Five. Five-pointed star. "
later, after several students finished reading it, the teacher said kindly, "when it comes to carambola, everyone is very familiar with it." However, if you look at it from different angles, carambola looks different. sometimes it looks like a five-pointed star.
therefore, when we see other people painting carambola into a five-pointed star, don't be busy laughing, we should see from what angle they look at it. "
Su Shi once wrote a poem: "there are steep peaks on the side of meandering mountains, but there are thousands of different ways in the past."
as a matter of fact, everyone has a different point of view, so what they see is different. Sometimes what you see may not be seen by others. You may not be able to observe what others see.
therefore, if you change the angle of everything, you will see the whole picture and truth of more things. We must not blind us with one leaf, generalize the whole and look at the problem one-sidedly.
it is difficult to distinguish between right and wrong in different positions
everyone has his own place in this world.
in fact, if the role is different, the starting point is different. With different objects, the emphasis is also different.
sometimes, when you treat the same thing, even the same person, you will have completely different views on the same thing because of your different positions.
Ji Bu used to be a general under Xiang Yu's account. He besieged Liu Bang several times and almost killed Liu Bang. Later, after Xiang Yu's failure, Liu Banghua offered a large reward for Jibu's life.
later, someone advised Liu Bang that Ji Bu served for Xiang Yu, and it was his duty to besiege you. What was wrong with him being loyal to his duty?
after hearing this, Liu Bang no longer cared about Jibu, and even worshiped Jibu as a doctor.
on the contrary, Ji Bu's uncle, Gong Ding, was also at war with Liu Bang. Once after trapping Liu Bang, Liu Bang begged for mercy and said, "We are both heroes, so how can we kill each other?" So Duke Ding retreated and Liu Bang was able to escape.
later, when Duke Ding went to visit Liu Bang, Liu Bang had him tied up on the spot, saying that Ding Gong, as Xiang Yu's minister, was not loyal, and it was people like you who made Xiang Wang lose the world. So he killed Ding Gong and warned others not to learn from him!
Liu Bang's approach seems contradictory, but in fact it is reasonable.
although he has been harmed by "enemies", after all, as a king, he is loyal to people who are loyal.Natural appreciation and care.
although he was treated kindly by his "benefactor", as a king, he despised, even looked down upon, those subjects who betrayed their masters because of a moment of weakness.
in fact, there is no absolute right or wrong in this world.
sometimes, conflicts and estrangement between people have so-called prejudices and prejudices because of their different positions.
maybe when you are the boss, you always feel that your employees are lazy. But when you are an employee, you will blame your boss for being stingy.
maybe when you are a mother-in-law, you always think that nothing your daughter-in-law can do is wrong. But when you are a mother, you will love your daughter everywhere.
there is no need to argue about the difference between high and low
A photo once circulated on the Internet.
A person standing on the ground sees a wall, a person standing on a pile of books, seeing dark clouds, and another person standing on a higher pile of books, seeing a clear sky.
in fact, everyone sees different things at different heights.
sometimes, the upper limit you see may be someone else's lower limit. Sometimes, what you think is the end is someone else's starting point.
two people went to climb the mountain together.
one person has reached the top of the mountain, and the other is still on the hillside.
the man who reached the top of the mountain shouted, look, it's the sea. The people who were still on the mountainside said angrily that there was a tree in front of them.
in fact, the views of these two people are correct, and what they see will be very different from each other at different heights.
I have seen a joke.
in winter, three old men squat together in the corner, basking in the sun and talking about their ideals.
the old man who collected dung said, "if I become emperor, I will order that all the dung on the east side of this street belong to me, and whoever goes to pick it up will send a business trip to catch him."
the old man who chopped wood glared at the old man and said, "you know how to pick up dung. If I became emperor, I would hit a golden axe and use it to cut wood every day."
the old beggar laughed and said, "you two are so low-level!" Now that we are emperors, do we still have to work? If I became emperor, I would do nothing but sit by the fire and eat roasted sweet potatoes every day. "
in fact, everyone's starting point is different, and the height of their horizons will also be different.
so sometimes, between people, outside some bottom lines and principles, there is no need to argue too much, the so-called winning or losing is equal.
because everyone has their own limitations and limits because of their differences in cognition, thinking and pattern. Therefore, we do not have to embarrass others, nor do we need to promote ourselves.