The more she loves to act like a spoiled child, the better the parent-child relationship will be.
I went to be a guest at a friend's house two days ago.
it was my friend's 7-year-old son who opened the door to greet me.
after entering the door, Tiantian took out a pair of slippers and handed them to me with her fleshy little hands. "Auntie, I washed these slippers clean," she said in a milky voice.
I was stunned by the little boy's thoughtfulness. I was so surprised that I didn't know what to say, so I had to say thank you again and again.
at that time, my friends were gracefully mending their makeup with their legs crossed on the sofa.
after I sat down, my friend put down his lipstick, then turned to his son who was playing Transformers and shouted:
"Mom is going to play with her good friends today. Would you like to be the host and pour us a cup of tea?"
that gentle tone is at odds with her usual vigorous actions in the workplace.
words, he bounced to the water cooler and picked up two cups of warm water and delivered it to us.
"I suddenly want to eat apples. What should I do?"
"I'll wash it for you!"
"Gee, the trash can is full again, but I don't want to run."
"I'll change the garbage bag!"
A good friend is like a person who can't take care of himself, making all kinds of demands on his son, while the son is also actively meeting her demands.
looking at the little figure before and after jumping, I was in a trance: is this my friend's 7-year-old son or her sweet little boyfriend?
when I saw me dumbfounded, my friend giggled and said, "if you raise a child, you have to act coquettish more to make sure it works!"
it is said that sajiao women are the best, but they have never thought that sajiao mothers are better off!
is the most irresistible tenderness for children
once read a small composition entitled "Mother who loves being coquettish" on the Internet.
the young author wrote:
"I am so afraid of my mother being spoiled, because when my mother acts like a spoiled child, I will finish everything I am asked to do very obediently."
"I am so afraid of my mother being spoiled, because when my mother acts like a spoiled child, my heart is crisp."
in fact, every child has a heroic dream.
they are eager to protect the earth and save the world.
and at the beginning of their lives, the first person they can protect and help is their own mother.
the results of psychological studies show that when children grow up, they need to be recognized by meeting the needs of others.
and doing what you can for your mother is the best way.
when the mother says, "I am so sleepy, but I am afraid to sleep alone", the child's desire for protection will be stimulated, and he will wash up early and climb into bed to accompany his mother to sleep.
when the mother says, "I'm so tired, I don't have the strength to throw rubbish", the child's sense of responsibility will be awakened, and he will not hesitate to pick up the garbage bag and walk to the stairwell.
I can't help thinking of a mother and son I once met at the crossroads.
seeing the green light soon, my mother habitually said in a fast speed, "take my hand quickly, it's time to cross the road."
the 4-year-old boy next to him was playing with Altman intently. He raised his mouth and shook his head, apparently not wanting to put down the toy to hold his mother's hand.
the mother was not angry, let alone rudely picked up her son and left.
she squatted down and said in a more coquettish tone than her son: "Baby, mother is so scared to cross the road alone!" Are you willing to take your mother by the hand and take her across the road? "
when asked so gently by his mother, the little boy immediately stopped playing and reached out a small hand to hold his mother: "well, mother is not afraid, I will lead you across the road!"
it turns out that the mother's coquetry is the most irresistible tenderness of the little doll.
A gentle coquettish sentence can turn a child who is unwilling to cooperate into a little angel who understands and takes care of his mother.
the more coquettish the mother is, the more independent the child is
there is such a question on Zhihu: "what kind of experience is it to have a mother who likes to act coquetry with her children every day?"
there is a highly praised comment: "my independence today is inseparable from my mother's love of being coquettish."
then netizens told the story of their childhood.
he grew up in a single-parent family and depended on his mother.
but unlike most single-parent families, the mother does not spoil her child because she feels indebted to him, nor does she become a strong person because she is a single mother.
since childhood, she said to her son, "Baby, you are a man, so you have to protect and take care of your mother."
after kindergarten, she began to ask her son to try to do as much housework as he could, such as folding clothes and washing socks.
sometimes the son wants to be lazy, and the mother will say, "Mom is so tired, too. Why don't we fold the clothes together as soon as possible and then have a rest?"
in the face of his mother's gentle suggestion, the son would get up from the sofa to help fold clothes even if he wanted to be lazy.
it is the gentle parenting style of the mother that makes the son a person who can be on his own from an early age.
he can not only live independently but also think independently than children of the same age. This independent spirit led him to be admitted to a coveted key university.
when you think about it, there is no shortage of capable mothers in society, but what is lacking is mothers who know how to guide their children to learn and grow up by acting like a spoiled child.
sajiao is a high-end parenting method, which is to give back the opportunity to grow up to the child in the most gentle and loving way, so as to stimulate the child's sense of responsibility and responsibility, so as to raise an independent and capable child.
the more coquettish the mother is, the better the parent-child relationship is
the parent-child relationship between Tian Yulan and his son must have made many people crazy in the TV series "Xiao Shu de".
in the play, Tian Yulan is an out-and-out strong woman, all-powerful in the workplace, everything in the family, and the son's study is also arranged meticulously.
she is not only strong in doing things, but also in the way she talks to her son:
"go and eat your breakfast."
"come on, finish the paper."
A sentence of imperative words suppresses Zi out of breath.
my mother's efforts and hard work, Ziyou actually see in the eyes, pain in the heart.
but because her mother is too strong, Ziyou doesn't think that her heartache has any meaning.
gradually, the mother and son began to quarrel again and again because of misunderstanding, and the parent-child relationship deteriorated rapidly.
when Tian Yulan was criticized by the audience, did it ever occur to you that Tian Yulan's tone is actually like the usual you?
when the child refuses to wash and go to bed on time, you yell over and over again: "what time is it?" Why don't you go wash up! "
when your children dillydally with their homework, you say again and again, "Why don't you do it quickly?" You can't finish all this homework? "
A word of impatience and repetition will only bore the child.
on the contrary, if the mother tries to act coquettish and stimulate her child's sense of responsibility and desire for protection, she may be able to turn a chicken-and-dog fight into filial piety.
in the show "Mom is Superman", many people were moved by the intimate relationship between Huo Siyan and her son ahem.
some netizens even said: "just change the name of the program to 'Mom is a public lift'."
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because Huo Siyan and ahem are more like princesses and knights than ordinary mother-son relationships.
in ahem's heart, the coquettish Huo Siyan is a princess who needs to be protected and taken care of.
in Huo Siyan's mind, ahem is a brave and responsible little knight.
when Huo Siyan was hit with a ball by a child, Huo Siyan looked very scared. Ahem, she came at the first time to protect her mother with open arms.
when Huo Siyan is hypoglycemic but wants to eat sweet, mm-hmm, open a piece of sugar and feed it to her mother's mouth.
such a harmonious and warm parent-child relationship is inseparable from Huo Siyan's "love sajiao".
when the mother makes a request by acting like a spoiled child, the child feels respect and equality. This makes children more willing to cooperate with their mothers to do things.
in the process of raising children, "to be strong by force" is never the way, but "to be soft and strong" is the king.
the more coquettish the mother is, the more the child will be obedient, and the parent-child relationship
the department will get better and better.
being coquettish is not only a woman's right, but also her mother's weapon.
the more spoiled and weak the mother is, the more responsible and capable the child will be.
what stands behind a thoughtful and sensible child is never a fierce woman with a strong voice, but a gentle mother who loves to act like a spoiled child and knows how to show weakness.
, may you also let go of your anxiety and use a coquettish sentence in exchange for a good child who can keep you warm and protect you well.