often thinks about his own mistakes when he sits still, and makes no comments about others.
in life, as long as you come into contact with people, there will inevitably be some ups and downs.
when we encounter these things, do we have no place to complain, or do we often think about ourselves and reflect on ourselves?
there is a saying in the Book of Rites and Music: "likes and dislikes are unrestrained inside, seduced from the outside, can not bow back, heaven is destroyed."
means that it is unnatural to show all your likes and dislikes if you cannot reflect on yourself when something happens.
it is a person's highest self-cultivation not to complain when something happens, but to find a reason from himself first.
Man's greatest stupidity
, it's complaining
Laozi said, "when Great Way is implemented, it is not to blame others."
people who are really good know how not to blame others when something happens.
and some people often complain unconsciously after something happens, even without being aware of it.
people who complain will have grievances and grievances in their hearts, and the aura around them must be bad. The bad aura affects you all the time, making you gradually lose your fighting spirit and faith, thus making people more and more unhappy.
therefore, do not complain, complaining will bring disaster.
in ancient times, there was a man who had a habit of eating breakfast without salt.
one morning, his wife put some salt in the porridge. When he knew this, he got angry and shouted to his wife, "Don't you know I don't put salt in my breakfast?" I won't eat. "
during the quarrel, the child on one side was frightened to cry, and the child accidentally dripped soup on his clean clothes.
the thought of going to visit a friend later, without a piece of clean clothes, made him even more upset.
while complaining, he wiped the stain with a wet cloth.
after rushing out the door angrily, I found that I didn't take the gift I brought to my friend, but I found it too late to get home.
finally went to a friend's house empty-handed. When talking with his friends, the friends felt that he was full of grievances and unhappy, and finally the two broke up in discord.
the husband began to complain again: "it's been a bad day. Why are all the bad things concentrated on me?"
as onlookers, we all know that all this went wrong because he complained about a bowl of rice in the morning.
complaining is a way for people to vent their discontent when they encounter unpleasant things.
and the more you complain, the more negative energy you will have around you. The more bad aura, the easier it is to complain. Such a cycle will make people unable to extricate themselves.
Life is not easy, it is only natural to complain occasionally and talk appropriately.
but if you get caught up in endless complaints and can't be calm with complaints, it's not only sad, but also stupid.
Don't blame anything,
is a person's top accomplishment
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when something happens, if you only know how to blame others and don't want to find a reason from yourself, you can only make things worse.
only when one understands self-examination can one see clearly one's own mistakes and deficiencies, and the road of life can become wider and wider.
not blaming things will not only make things easier to deal with, but also better reflect a person's self-cultivation.
I saw a piece of news before.
A fire broke out suddenly in the home of a high-rise resident in a residential area in Guizhou. The fire spread rapidly and soon set the whole house in a mess.
fortunately, the owner of the home found it early and fled the scene in time, so his life was not in danger.
afterwards, the head of the household, Ms. Meng, said, "in the morning, she took the hairdryer to blow the sheets and trousers for the child. In the middle of the blow, the baby kept crying. She went to change the baby's trousers and forgot to turn off the hairdryer."
when the husband came home, he found that the house had been burned to the ground. He looked at his wife, who was sad and blamed himself, and said, "isn't it just a house?" We'll redecorate and live in a new house. "
A word from the husband, the wife couldn't help it any longer, so she turned and hugged her husband.
and it is such a comforting word, how precious it is to the wife.
but if the husband says, "Why don't you turn off the hairdryer and look for the baby?" What's the use of marrying you if you can't even do such a simple thing? "
then the family will lose not only the house, but also the relationship between the family.
the little things see the hearts of the people, and the big things see the feelings. As for her husband's comfort, most netizens expressed their envy that Ms. Meng married the right person.
things have happened, and even blaming will not help, it will only add to the pain.
as the old saying goes, "only breadth can tolerate people, and only thickness can carry things."
to be a man, tolerance and magnanimity is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of virtue. Forgive others' mistakes and free your own heart.
everyone makes mistakes and misunderstandings in communication. Knowing how to think of others and compare your heart to heart is the most basic goodness of a person.
stop blaming people and things around you, build a tolerant heart, keep a tolerant mouth, and your life will go more and more smoothly.
introspection, everything can be accomplished
Mencius said, "if you can't do it, you can't do it."
when you encounter something that is not going well, you know how to reflect on yourself and look for problems from yourself.It can always achieve good results.
and people who know how to reflect on themselves all the time will not be poor in their career achievements.
in a school, a new group of students have arrived.
according to the regulations, everyone in the school will be given new clothes and hats.
the newly issued equipment does not measure everyone's height and weight before distribution, so these clothes often do not match everyone's figure, and everyone can only choose the clothes that are closest to their own body.
A student happened to be absent when choosing equipment, so everyone left him a dress that was much bigger than himself.
one day, a teacher came to check the post and saw that the student's clothes were very big and his hat was so big that he almost covered his eyes.
then asked, "Why are your clothes and hats so big?"
he replied, "report, it's not my clothes and hat that are big, but my body and head are too small."
"isn't your body and head too small just because your clothes and hat are too big?" The teacher asked.
the student replied, "my mother taught me that as an upright man, whatever happens, I should first look for my own problems, not other problems."
the teacher agreed with his answer.
when you are alive, you will encounter a lot of problems. Finding other people's problems and problems in everything will not solve the problems well, but will make you fall into endless complaints.
people who are really good know how to find reasons from themselves, which is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom.
everyone has many shortcomings, do not blindly blame, more lenient to treat the people and things around, heart to heart, this is a person's greatest kindness.
in life, there are less complaints and accusations and more self-reflection.
everyone has shortcomings and shortcomings, measure yourself first, blame others and ask yourself first.
complaining will not only bring trouble and pressure to a person, but also wear away a person's will.
as the old saying goes, "when you sit still, you often think about your mistakes, and you can't talk about others."
when things happen, don't find other excuses, calm down and reflect on yourself, look at things from the point of view of others, and look at yourself from the point of view of others, so that you can know yourself more correctly.
he who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise.
the success and failure of life are decided by yourself. Only by reflecting on yourself can you make yourself better and better.
from now on, with an introspective heart to deal with the troubles of the world, your life will be better and better.