Do not argue, ignore, do not explain (good text in depth)
Do not argue, ignore, do not explain (good text in depth)
The depth of the water is silent, and a man is silent.

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there is a classic dialogue in "Hanshan pick up the questions":

Hanshan asked Gidi, "what if some people in the world slander me, deceive me, humiliate me, laugh at me, despise me, despise me, hate me and deceive me?"

pick up and say: "just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years, you can look at him."

I think so.

Life lasts only a few decades, and things are troublesome. We must learn to do things calmly and spend our time on things worth doing. We are really smart people.

for things around you, only by not arguing, ignoring and explaining can you understand the true meaning of life and become a person with a strong heart.

Don't argue, be a person with a pattern

there is such a story of "three seasons" in the Analects of Confucius.

one day, Zi Gong was cleaning the yard at the door. When a guest came, he asked Zi Gong, "are you a disciple of Confucius?"

Zi Gong said yes.

the man asked, "then I'd like to ask you a question, may I?"

Zi Gong replied briskly, "good."

"I ask you, how many seasons are there in a year?"

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"four seasons in spring, summer, autumn and winter." Zi Gong answered with a smile.

"No, there are only three seasons a year!" The guest shook his head.

the two sides quarreled and decided to bet that if anyone was wrong, they would kowtow to each other three times.

Confucius heard it and went outside the courtyard, so they asked Confucius to evaluate it.

Confucius replied, "A year is indeed three seasons." Then let Zigong kowtow three times, and the guest left with satisfaction.

Zi Gong was puzzled afterwards and asked Confucius, "there are four seasons in a year. Why did you say there are three seasons in a year?"

Confucius said:

"didn't you see that man was green all over his body? He is a grasshopper, a grasshopper born in spring and dead in autumn. He has only experienced spring, summer and autumn in his life, but has never seen winter. He will be satisfied if you tell him about the three seasons, and there will be no result even if you talk about the quarrels of the four seasons till night. If you don't go along with him, can he leave so readily? "

as the saying goes: often argue with the same as long and short, not with fools.

arguing with fools is not only time-consuming and laborious, but also ends up in a good mood.

the world is so big that there are all kinds of people. Not all people are reasonable and worth your energy to argue. There is no need to waste our time on meaningless things.

as the old saying goes: no argument is compassion, no argument is wisdom.

concession is not weakness, but open-mindedness. Those who do not reason with muddle-headed people, and who can be patient with bad people without arguing about bad things, are those who have a pattern.

the world of mortals is eventful and troublesome, but there is no dispute and is free in the world.

ignore it and be a wise person

friend Xiao Ju is an optimistic and life-loving person. He usually likes to record his life in his moments through good life photos and positive words.

after buying a bouquet of flowers today, I feel like I have a room full of spring.

Today I went to see a musical, enjoyed an audio-visual feast, and felt that my soul had been washed.

Today, when I went strawberry picking with my boyfriend, I felt that the air was pink all day.

but I haven't seen any updates to her moments recently. I didn't know until I asked. Recently, someone commented on her:

"show affection, score quickly";

"pretending to be lofty, not only for others to see, but also musicals, pictures stolen on the Internet";

"I'm so busy posting on moments all day long that I don't know myself at all";


these comments made her care very much, and she couldn't let it go, and she never dared to post them on moments again.

in life, experiences like Xiao Ju abound.

as the philosopher Schopenhauer said, "one of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that we care about what others think of us."

A person who cares about the opinions of others will often be frustrated, sad, and even self-doubt when he is subjected to negative comments and malicious attacks.

but there are also some people who simply don't care about other people's opinions or what others think of themselves. on the contrary, such people will have a more free and confident life.

Zhou Guoping said: "I never care what others think of me, because I know what is going on with myself. If a person is not sure about himself, it is easy to care about the opinions of others."

We should not live for what other people think. Ignore other people's gossip. Too much bitterness will only make you worry about others.

to deal with life, you just need to know what you know. After all, you have to measure the measure of your soul.

No matter what others think of it, we should always keep our hearts awake and firm our pursuit and yearning.

it is really wise to ignore malicious comments from the outside world.

Don't explain, be a mature person

in life, many people who have been with you come from different places and have different life circles, so they will naturally have different living habits.

Get along with it, there will be people who understand you and you sympathize with each other, people who do not understand you will let you avoid.

when faced with misunderstandings and differences, the most mature solution is not to explain.

because those who understand you do not need to explain; those who do not understand you do not need to explain.

there is such a story in Keiko Xiangliang:

the chicks fly from the South China Sea to the North Sea. Non-sycamore trees do not inhabit, non-bamboo fruits do not eat, and non-sweet springs do not drink.

and the kite picked up a rotten mouse and saw the baby flying in front of it, thinking that it was fighting for its own food, so it hurriedly protected the rodent and yelled at it.

in the face of this misunderstanding, the chick did not explain, because he disdained to explain the kite at a different level from himself.

so the height of life lies not in how many things you see clearly, but in how many things you despise.

the mountain does not explain its height, it still rises into the cloud;

the sea does not explain its depth, it still holds all rivers;

the earth does not explain its depth, but it is still the mother of all things.

the depth of the water is silent, and a man is silent.

mature people will lose their temper, know how to be patient, don't waste their energy and time on boring things, and won't explain their pursuits to people who don't understand.

after all, life is your own, and there is no need to explain it to others!

Human feelings are always so complicated and sophisticated.

whether there are endless quarrels, malicious comments and slanders, or puzzles and misunderstandings around us, we can't decide their opinions, but we can be ourselves.

do things innocently, be magnanimous, learn to tolerate, be an indifferent person, watch the flowers bloom in front of the court, laugh at the joys and sorrows of the world!

after the vicissitudes of life and the baptism of years, may you still be calm and calm without arguing, ignoring or explaining.

encourage each other!

three voices.