In this life, two years to learn to speak, a lifetime to learn to shut up.
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I have seen such a sentence in a book:
"being able to talk is smart, and being able to shut up is self-cultivation.
A man learns to speak in two years and to shut up in his whole life.
Learning to speak well is a lifelong practice;
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to keep your mouth shut is the best feng shui in your life.
being able to talk is smart
there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "Nine of ten languages may not be called strange. If a word is not right, then the trespass is especially parallel."
being kind to others is warmer than cloth; hurting words is deeper than spears.
so most of the time, some people win as soon as they open their mouth, while others lose as soon as they open their mouth.
A few days ago, at the classmate reunion, I met a lot of good friends I hadn't seen for a long time. We ate pleasantries, talked about interesting things at school, and talked about the hardships after graduation.
unexpectedly, the words of Wu Xing, a classmate, finally broke up in discord.
at that time, she pestered a newly divorced female classmate and asked:
"in other words, you are almost 40 years old, why do you want a divorce?"
"I'm telling you, it's hard for divorced women to marry, especially if you carry an oil bottle."
in the end, she also said: "I am a person, knife mouth, tofu heart, if there is anything that makes you uncomfortable, you do not mind!"
the female classmate was so angry that she dropped the sentence "you are not a knife mouth, you are bad!" And then left on the grounds that "there are children to take care of at home".
and the originally lively party became dull because of this episode.
Zhu Ziqing once wrote in his prose "speaking":
"it's not easy to talk.
if you talk every day, you don't necessarily know how to speak; many people talk all their lives and don't say a few words well. "
it is a kind of happiness to be with people who can talk.
and learning to be a good talker is a compulsory course in one's life.
Jingfei in Nirvana in Fire is a smart person who can talk.
once, after the emperor knew that the queen had embarrassed her, the emperor asked her, "I heard that the queen humiliated you in public."
Princess Jingfei smiled and said, "who chewed the tongue? the queen just spoke bluntly. I, as a sister, really care about it."
the more you grow up, the more you find that compared to good looks and outstanding talent, being able to talk is the most attractive thing for a person.
people, it is instinct to be able to speak, and to be able to speak is the skill.
and smart people all know how to speak well.
it's self-cultivation to shut up
there is a saying in "the combination of maxims": "to cultivate oneself is to clear one's heart, and to be cautious in dealing with the world."
there is a word called "disaster comes out of the mouth", especially in the adult world.
some time ago, Sister Zhang, a neighbor, suddenly posted a moments:
"more mouth, more calamity, less talk is a blessing. For the rest of your life, you must learn to shut up! "
I asked her what was wrong.
she told me that she had caused trouble because she was talkative.
hearing this, I understood a little in an instant.
Sister Zhang is a famous "big mouth" in the community: the parents of the east, the family of the west, the private affairs of the north family and the close people of the south family, you can hear all from her.
it's not that she hasn't caused trouble for talking too much, but she just can't keep her mouth shut.
"some time ago, I happened to be there when my nephew and his wife quarreled. At that time, his wife was crying and screaming, so I said something wrong about my nephew's wife. As a result, his wife went back to her mother's house without saying a word. "
"later I learned that they quarreled that day because their nephew was fond of gambling and lost money."
"now, my niece complains that I don't know the difference between right and wrong, and my nephew blames me for being talkative. I'm not flattering at both ends, and I'm not a person inside and outside!"
Yes, it is self-cultivation to shut up when you are alive.
those who are really smart know how to keep their mouths shut.
as the Bible Proverbs says:
"it is inevitable to be talkative and talkative, but it is wise to forbid lips.
I have seen such a Jewish fable in the book:
A businessman said to his servant, "go and buy back the most expensive thing on the market."
after a while, the servant came back and bought the tongue.
A few days later, the merchant said to the servant, "go and buy the cheapest thing on the market."
unexpectedly, this time, the servant bought back his tongue.
the businessman was puzzled and asked, "the other day I asked you to buy the most expensive things, but you bought your tongue back." Today I want you to buy the cheapest thing, and you buy your tongue back. What is the reason for this? "
the servant replied, "the tongue is valuable if it is good, but it is worthless if it is bad."
the Book of morality says: "it is better to keep the middle than to speak too much and count the poor."
if you talk too much, you will lose, and if you talk too much, you will lose.
the best feng shui in a person is to shut up.
A wise man, speak well; a wise man, know how to shut up
what is the mouth?
some people say that the mouth is a ruler, and the EQ will be known as soon as it is measured.
it is also said that the mouth is a calibrator, and the depth of self-cultivation can be known by testing it.
I don't know what a mouth is, but when I stumble all the way, suffer from being unable to speak, and feel the pain of not knowing how to shut up, I am sure: a wise man, speak well; a sage, know how to shut up.
how many people, because they speak well, have become wise people in life--
facing "I already have two children, what about you, Jia Ling?" In an embarrassing way to urge her to get married, Jia Ling skillfully replied, "if you have two children, then give me one", which made netizens applaud.
Huang Bo, known as "too interesting to look at his face," defused the reporter "can you replace Ge You?" with just one sentence, "this era will not stop you from shining, but you can't cover the glory of others." A sharp question;
when Wang Han was asked, "you and he Han, who is the first brother of Hunan TV?" When he was in no hurry, he gave a textbook-style standard answer: "of course, teacher he is the first elder brother, and I am his eldest brother."
and how many people have become sages in life because they know how to shut up?
Zeng Guofan never forgot to "abstain from talking too much" all his life;
Zhu Bailu wrote "if you speak too much, you will lose" in "Zhu Zi's Family motto". Master Hongyi insists that "cautious speech comes first".
there is a question on the Internet: what are the best people you have ever met?
A highly praised answer is: "can speak well, but also know how to shut up at the right time."
Yes, talking less is a realm, and being able to shut up is a kind of self-cultivation.
when you are alive, whether you are far away from rivers and lakes or living high in a temple, you should keep your mouth shut.
you know, being able to talk and shut up is the best feng shui for a person.
someone once asked Mozi, "is it good to talk too much?"
Mozi replied without hesitation, "Toad, frog fly, chirping day and night, dry mouth, but do not listen." Watching the morning chicken today, it crows at night, and the world vibrates. What's the point of talking too much? Only when he said it. "
Yes, in life, to be able to talk is smart, but to shut up is self-cultivation.
instead of talking too much to attract disasters, it is better to say less about Jufu.
May you be able to speak and shut up in the second half of life.
May you keep your mouth shut and fix the best feng shui.
encourage each other.